It doesn’t matter how many months or years you’ve been planning your wedding, sometimes there are things that happen that cause you to have second thoughts about getting married. Here are 7 signs you should call off the wedding. Of course not everyone will agree with all the signs I’ve listed below. However, these are signs that would definitely cause me to call off my wedding!
7. You Both Fight about Having Kids
One of you wants to have kids and the other doesn’t. Sometimes one person changes his/her mind about this topic, but it can be a source of many arguments. When this discussion constantly resurfaces over a period of many years, tension usually increases. If you are fighting about this subject daily already, then I don’t see how the topic will never be a pleasant subject for either of you.
6. Emotional Needs Aren’t Going to Be Met
Are you needy? Is he needy? Are you an extremely affectionate person and he isn’t, or vice versus? If you two aren’t able to meet each other’s level of emotional needs, then you might not be as perfect for one another as you previously thought. I’ve dated guys that were very clingy and these relationships didn’t work out, due to the fact that I couldn’t stand being physically smothered.
5. Either or Both of You Are Having Doubts
Cold feet are common, but having doubts that cause severe anxiety or a nervous breakdown usually isn’t normal. If you both are feeling extremely doubtful about your current decision to get married, then maybe it’d be better if you’d wait a bit longer. There’s no hurry to rush into marriage, is there?
4. You Found out He’s Cheating on You
I don’t know about you, but this is a sure sign that he’s not as interested in me as he used to be. If he can’t be faithful now, why would getting married make him more faithful? Maybe your guy has always been a cheat and you only recently found out. Isn’t it better that you found out before getting married to him?
3. You Both Have Completely opposite Ideas about the Future
You want to continue your education, but he wants you to travel with him. Or maybe he’s the old fashioned type and wants you to be a stay-at-home mom instead of pursuing your career. Having different aspirations for the future can be helpful at times, since it gives you both a chance to talk over what you want. If you can’t agree on anything though, you might not want to be taking the next step in this relationship by getting married.
2. Discussions Often Resort to Bouts of Violence
I would hope that if you are in an abusive relationship that you’d get out of it as soon as possible. Why get married to a person who physically abuses you when anger is involved? Some people are as sweet as pie until things don’t go according to plan. You could blame the bursts of violence on pre-wedding jitters or stress from planning the wedding, but how can you be certain that this violence will stop after the wedding? It seems like a huge risk to take.
1. Signs of over-controlling Behavior
Is he domineering? Is it his way or the highway? Does he tell you what to wear, how to do your hair, what to eat, when to eat it, and display other methods of trying to control your every move? I definitely couldn’t stand a future with someone who constantly told me what to do every step of the way.
I hope you’ve never experienced any of these signs right before deciding to get married. If you have, then please feel free to share what the outcome was and if you decided to actually cancel the wedding. Out of these 7 signs you should call off the wedding, which one would you place as the most important?
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