7 Worst Reasons to Get Married ...

Jennifer

There are so many wonderful, romantic reasons to get married… but on the flip side, there are also the worst reasons to get married. I’m not judging; I just want your marriage to be as happy and successful as possible! To that end, I’ve put together a list of what I think are the worst reasons to get married. Take a close look at your situation and feelings, then compare them carefully against my list. Take a deep breath, and let’s get started.

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1

For the Kids

It may seem like a no-brainer to marry the father of your children, if you had them out of wedlock, but it’s not always the best idea, and in fact, is one of the worst reasons to get married. I speak here from personal experience! I’m not suggesting that the man may not be a good father, but that doesn’t automatically qualify him as a good husband. If you’re hoping marriage will make him into a good father or husband, it’s sad, but it won’t. He is the father and partner he is, just like you’re the mother and partner you already are.

2

To Please Your Family

I married the first time to please my husband’s family; they pressured us into marrying because they thought it would settle him down. It was a total disaster, of course. Making any major life decision with the goal of pleasing someone else almost always means putting your own interests and happiness on the back burner… and it almost never works out.

3

Tick Tock!

Your biological clock may be ticking, but rushing into a marriage so you can have children may be a disaster in the making. Your future husband is more than a potential sperm bank; think of him as a partner, then the father of your children, then as your husband once your children are grown. If he doesn’t fit this formula, you might be making a rush into marriage for the wrong reasons. Besides, you don’t necessarily need a husband to be a mother – that’s what actual sperm banks are for!

4

For Money

Marrying for money, or financial stability, isn’t in itself a bad idea to get married, as long as both of you know why you’re getting into it. Marriage is, of course, much deeper than romantic love; picking a partner with similar financial goals and habits is actually a good idea. But marrying solely for financial profit is a bad idea, morally, ethically, and even statistically: these marriages rarely work long-term.

5

You’re Lonely

Even if you’re afraid you’re heading down a path that will lead you to being the crazy cat lady, the one who reeks of loneliness and desperation, destined to live forever alone with your ever-increasing collection of porcelain figurines, don’t marry a man you don’t adore just so you won’t be alone. Yes, companionship is important, but imagine how sad it would be to meet your dream man… after you’re already married.

6

You Think He’ll Settle down

If you’re hoping your man will change, settle down, once you’re married, think again. While everyone makes practical changes once they’re married, often times their habits and personalities don’t, no matter how much we wish they would. Marrying a man, hoping he’ll change, is a set-up for disappointment.

7

For the Dream Wedding

You’ve been planning your dream wedding for years, pinning glamorous goodies on Pinterest all lunch hour long. But do you see beyond the wedding into your married life, into the future? If you spend more time day-dreaming about the invitations you’ll send, the glittery head-piece you’ll wear, maybe you don’t want the marriage as much as you want the wedding.

While these are, in my view, the reasons to get married that will make your marriage most likely to crash and burn, everyone, every relationship, is different. I just want what you want – a happy, fairy-tale marriage that lasts forever. Which of these reasons puts you off the idea of tying the knot, and what would you add to my list?

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I think it's a lot worse for your children to grow up with unhappily married parents.

I think so too Katherine

I agree with you on many points. But I've never been big on the whole sperm bank idea. Ironically because of WOMEN. In recent years I've seen MANY disturbing news pieces about women who had children through the use of a sperm bank. Now those kids are older and they want to know about their father. What are these mothers doing? They are breaking their agreement they signed for confidentiality with the donor

I don't like this if you really love someone you would only think about the positive thoughts not the negative ones

My bf n I always want to marry with each other but sometime he seem ignore ab it. He only think about his business. When I mad at him , he didn't say anything just go sleep. His family n my family don't like each other , they don't let us to get marry. Sometime I can tell that he really love me n do everything but I'm afraid that he will turn to s1 else after married.

Marrying because of children is a great reason. You wanted to be selfish to bring a child into a broken home then you should suck it up and deal with the man you had your child with. For the sake of their life. Don't be selfish.

@Angie Fuentes it's because my family don't like my bf n my bf's family don't like me too. That's y I'm afraid that one day he will listen to someone else n leave me alone !! Especial his sister , she always tell him to leave me bcos our family issue. I have no idea too but I need help :(

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