Wedding clichés are easy to find but sometimes difficult to avoid in your own wedding planning. Whether you’re looking to forgo every single wedding cliché while planning your own wedding, or simply want to avoid a few of the really cheesy ones, you’ll find something on this list to cross off. Plus, it’s your wedding. If there are wedding clichés you really love but think that it might be too cheesy, go for it anyway. That is unless that cliché is the garter toss. It is my personal mission to eradicate the garter toss from weddings everywhere and save millions from the inevitable awkward situation. I kid.
1. Overplayed Music
I completely understand if a certain overplayed wedding song means a lot to you and you want it played at your wedding, whether it’s Butterfly Kisses or At Last. However, I can’t forgive those other cheesy overplayed songs making their way into every wedding set list ever, like the Chicken Dance and the Cha-Cha Slide. Those songs are some of the worst wedding clichés out there. I understand that it’s a way to get people on the dance floor, but there must be some other way!
2. The Trend of the Time
I cannot even count how many times I’ve seen horrible wedding pictures only to hear the bride defend her decisions by saying it was the trend of the time. Don’t pick anything too trendy for your wedding, whether it’s the bridesmaid dresses, your own dress, or even something simple like the table arrangements. Try to forget about what’s trendy and stick to something you’re almost positive you won’t hate in ten to fifteen years.
3. Over-Posed Photography
This cliché has gotten better with the influx of Pinterest pose ideas, but it still holds true. While rigidly posed photography may look uniform, it may also make your photographs look pretty awkward in the end. Relax, and don’t worry so much about every little detail.
4. Unity Sand/Candle/Anything
I understand that this is a symbolic gesture, but I’ve rarely seen a unity sand ceremony that didn’t look tacky in the end. It’s a nice sentiment, but the whole point of a wedding is that “two become one.” Do you really need a candle or some sand to display that?
5. Disposable Cameras
Maybe this is just in my own personal experience, but I had a party with disposable cameras on every table and it didn’t end well. Rather than getting pictures of people enjoying themselves at the party, I got stupid, useless pictures of virtually nothing. It was a waste all around. Maybe this isn’t the case for most weddings, but considering my own experience, I would never go this route again.
6. Everything Matches
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for having a color scheme. What I’m not so keen on, though, is when everything matches to a scary degree. You don’t need to bathe in the room in the color of your choice. A color scheme is great, but do you really need a pink chocolate fountain?
7. The Garter Tossing
I don’t know if I’m the only person who feels so uncomfortable over this tradition, but I can’t imagine that I am. Watching the entire garter toss has felt awkward to me since I was a little girl. It’s always felt too personal for hundreds of your closest family and friends to watch. Plus, as a very young girl, it always put the fear of God in me that I would catch the bouquet and some random stranger who was close to twenty years my senior would have to put the garter on me. It’s an uncomfortable situation for everyone involved, and I wish it were a tradition that would die out, and soon.
What’s a wedding tradition or cliché you’re eager to forgo? Did you skip any of these at your wedding, or are you planning to? Let me know in the comments!