Getting cold feet before your wedding is not something any bride wants to deal with, but it happens. If it happens to you, it is good to know what you should do. It’s good to have a plan of action if cold feet hit you. This is a list of things you can do if you get cold feet before your wedding.
1. Realize You Are under a Lot of Pressure
One of the first things you should do if you get cold feet before your wedding is realize that you are under a lot of pressure. You are probably in the midst of planning your wedding and your pre-wedding festivities, as well as dealing with all of the changes taking place along with that. You may be moving to a new home or location. All of those things cause stress even if it is for a good thing. So remember that it may be the pressure talking.
2. Remember Special Moments
If you get cold feet before your wedding, it can help to think back over all the special moments you have shared with your partner. Remember all of the wonderful experiences you shared. That can help to calm your nerves and get rid of cold feet. A lot of times cold feet really are just nerves. Thinking back on all of the shared, treasured moments can help calm them.
3. Remind Yourself of Your Feelings
Remind yourself of your feelings toward your intended. Think about how you have felt for them in the past. If you have never had any kind of reservations about a future together, you probably shouldn’t give much weight to those nervous feelings. If the cold feet just suddenly hit you, it is probably best to trust your usual feelings. They are the ones you have felt when you were your normal self, not the self you are in the midst of wedding planning.
4. Talk to a Trusted Friend or Family Member
Sometimes it can help to talk to a trusted friend or family member. You want to be careful in whom you choose to talk to, though. Talk to someone who loves both of you. You don’t want to talk to someone who has never liked your future husband because they may not advise you honestly. But with the right person, this can be just the trick to rid you of cold feet.
5. Do Something Relaxing
Doing something relaxing won’t cure all cases of cold feet, but it may give you a different perspective. Wedding planning can be overwhelming. It can make you wonder if it is worth it. Taking a break to do something relaxing can calm you and your cold feet. This works wonderfully if your cold feet are caused by stress.
6. Reevaluate Your Choice of Wedding
You may have cold feet because of the type of wedding you are having. Has your wedding gotten out of hand? Did you want a certain choice but you were pressured into another? It could be that you want a different type of wedding, not to call off the wedding altogether. The type of wedding you have should only be the choice of you and your partner’s.
7. Ask the Hard Question
Sometimes you need to ask yourself the hard question. How do you really feel? There is a chance that you need to back out of your wedding, but you should be very, very sure first. Most cases of cold feet really aren’t a sign of the bride or groom's feelings, but are just nerves.
Getting cold feet can be scary but it doesn’t necessarily mean you need to call off the wedding. Have you felt any hint of cold feet? How did you move past them?