7 Telling Signs She Will Be a Bad Bridesmaid ...

Many of us believe that just because she is a sister, cousin, or even a friend who you have known since childhood, that this gives her an automatic green light to be in your wedding. Well I'm giving you the red light to stop and think about what you know about this person. Can you trust her to be there and be responsible on your big day? Is she known for showing up late or not at all, for not returning borrowed items, telling shared secrets, or causing a scene among other problems? If so, than you must realize that these are signs of a bad bridesmaid and that it's okay to say no to her.

Some might say she is the life of the party while others just think she is a hot mess! You have to decide for yourself what you really think about her and whether you want this kind of scene made by your bridesmaid. If she is someone who will be drunk by five o'clock, when you'll probably be taking your photos, you might want to tell her she's invited but will be sitting out as a bridesmaid.

You know those ladies I'm talking about, the ones who love showing off and post "look at me" photos on facebook. This day will not be about you, it will be about how great of a bridesmaid she is or how perfect the DIY centerpieces are that she helped put together. She will also probably show up on your wedding day in a bridesmaid dress that is two sizes smaller than what it should be, oh yes this is a sign of a bad bridesmaid!

Sometimes bridesmaids can be very helpful when you ask them about your wedding colors, invitations, or whether you should wear your hair up or down. However, there are some women out there who will voice their opinion too much and do it in a negative way. You don't need to hear that she thinks your DIY bouquet is hideous, you need her to suggest how to fix it. If she is one to put her two cents into every conversation, than you might want to leave her out of this one.

Nowadays bridesmaids can find casual chic dresses at J.Crew, JCPenney, or even Kohls that can be worn time and time again, so money usually isn't a factor. But if you are thinking of asking one of your girls who has a tendency to always borrow money, but doesn't ever return said money or give you a helping hand when needed, this might be a sign of a bad bridesmaid.

Planning a wedding is a lot of work, especially if you have DIY details to put together. When you pick your bridesmaids, remember that you'll need them to help you out with certain tasks. You'll want friends who will be reliable and will want to help in putting together your invitation envelopes, or will stop by the post office to get more stamps. If you have a friend or relative who is lazy and doesn't like to work, well you know what I'm going to say... these are signs of a bad bridesmaid!

When you were a little girl it was fun to compete with your sister to see who could drink their chocolate milk faster, run to the stop sign faster, or even who could get the attention of more boys at school! But now that you are both adults you are tired of competing with her to see who will get married first, who will have a baby first, or who has the better job. If you have this kind of relationship with your sister or a friend, this is not the kind of bridesmaid you want standing up with you on your wedding day.

I am not trying to bash on your relative or friend here, we all have people like this in our lives. But we just need to realize that it's okay to say no to these people when they ask to be in our wedding or when your mother tells you that your cousin should be a bridesmaid. If you know she has one of these signs of a bad bridesmaid, than think twice about asking her. You may hurt her feelings at first when you don't ask or when you tell her she's invited but won't be a bridesmaid, but if she loves you she will understand.

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