8 Reasons Not to Get Married Too Young ...

8 Reasons Not to Get Married Too Young ...
By Diana • Apr 9, 2013

There are many good reasons not to get married too young. As little girls, some of us dream about every detail of what our wedding day is going to look like. However, that can lead us into rushing to the aisle too soon, so I'm here to share with you Reasons Not to Get Married Too Young...

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1. Time to Find Yourself...

Your early to mid twenties are a time for you to discover who you really are and where you see your future taking you. Take time for you; explore different hobbies, create your own business, and make a name for yourself. This is one of the surefire reasons not to get married too young; you don't want to start a family when you still need time to grow up yourself.

2. More Chances to Travel...

If you love traveling and finding new places, then this may be a reason not to get married too young. Getting married doesn't mean that you won't travel, but when you buy a house, a bigger car, and start growing a family, traveling expenses get put on the back burner. Travel together as much as you can and see all there is to see before making the choice to say, 'I Do.'

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Often, your early twenties are a time of exploration, growth, and self-discovery, which can sometimes be easier to navigate without the commitments that marriage brings. Think about embarking on solo trips or traveling with friends to destinations that challenge your comfort zone and expose you to new cultures. These experiences can contribute significantly to your personal development and can impact your perspective on life and relationships. Embrace the freedom to wander and let your curiosity guide you—you may just find that these adventures enrich your life in ways you never imagined.

3. Learn How to Depend on Yourself...

It's nice to have that feeling that someone is there for you, but you don't want to take advantage of them. Be in control of your life; a reason not to get married too young is so you can learn how to depend on yourself. In the future you won't need to call up your spouse when the sink is leaking, when you need to hang a photo on the wall, or if there is a mouse running wild through your house! Learn to be a Do It Yourself kind of woman.

4. Being Okay with Being Alone...

Are you someone who jumps into a relationship right after one has ended? If you hate being alone and just want someone to want you, well this is a very good reason not to get married too young. Along with learning how to depend on yourself, you need to learn how to stand on your own and be okay with being alone. A marriage isn't going to fix what's wrong inside, seek counseling if you need someone to talk to and listen.

5. Strong Career Woman...

If you want to start your own business, are going to school to become a doctor, a lawyer, or something else that is going to take up a lot of your time, then you may not want to get married too young. You shouldn't put yourself or your spouse in a place of feeling guilty or feeling alone because you are working at the "office" late at night or on the weekends.

6. You Enjoy Ladies' Night...

This isn't to say that married women don't enjoy ladies' night, but sometimes young men get a little too jealous. So if you aren't into that whole, "You can't go out with your friends" jealous rage, this would probably be a reason not to get married too young.

7. The Baby Stork Paid You a Visit...

There are too many girls who don't realize that this is a reason not to get married too young. They actually think the opposite and believe that if you end up pregnant out of wedlock, then you should definitely marry your baby's daddy! Having an accidental pregnancy with someone doesn't automatically make mom and dad compatible, it means that you weren't thinking. Don't make the situation more difficult by jumping into a loveless marriage.

8. You Are the Caretaker Type...

Do you always look for someone to take care of or look for someone who is damaged and needs help? If you are the caretaker type who gets taken advantage of, then this is a reason not to get married too young. Don't rush into marriage because this person "needs you." Marriage should be about two people who are in love and respect each other.

What do you think, ladies, are these on your list of reasons not to get married too young? Do you have other reasons on your list?

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  • RheaLynn

    2013-04-10T20:13:52.000Z

    You can't tell the future. You just have to take each day as one. Regardless if your 20 or 26 if you find that person who makes you happy but still challenges you you have to be willing work through the good days and the bad days. You don't have to be single to "find yourself" when you get married you turn into a family and become one you change your mold as a person and you start a new life full if endless possibilities.
  • Denise

    2013-04-10T08:04:07.000Z

    My ex and I got together at 18. At some point I thought he was the love of my life and that I would marry him. At 24, I realized we were too different and we broke up. In the following year and a half, I really got to know the real me, not the girl who was in the relationship, but the girl who faced the world alone and who rocked it. I agree with this article completely. Maybe you still get to travel and work while married, but you NEVER get to know yourself, and learn to respect and love yourself, when you haven't spent time on your own.
  • Brielyn

    2013-04-10T13:58:02.000Z

    Completely disagree. I got married at 20 and have been happily married for almost 3 years now. I'm still finding out who I am every single day and will for the rest of my life but my husband and I are on this journey together. I believe a marriage should be with your best friend and I found that best friend and so why would I not want to experience every journey, trial, hardship, and happiness with him!
  • Stephanie

    2013-04-10T04:02:17.000Z

    My boyfriend is 26 and I'm 19 and it's great for me cos marriage will come faster! My sister and her boyfriend are 25 and have been together or 8 years NO PROPOSAL and it's tearing her apart now so I think he's takin not want to get married young to a whole new level. If he makes her wait much longer I doubt she'll even stay with him
  • Alletta

    2013-04-10T10:49:52.000Z

    I don't regret not being married at 27: I had to fix myself first.
  • Edmarie

    2013-04-10T00:37:24.000Z

    Hadn't this already been an article?
  • Elisa

    2013-04-10T11:15:00.000Z

    I totally agree with these, because mariage is suppose to be for the rest of your life so you dont need to rush it, better date in your 20's and when both are mature then take the next step. But of course you will only know the person when you living together facing all the difficulties and learn with each other, well I learned mine thats why I only will marry when I'am sure he is the one and that takes long long time
  • AWP

    2013-04-10T12:56:55.000Z

    @AWP also, we've been married 7 years, happily
  • Kaila

    2013-04-10T02:52:44.000Z

    In my personal opinion I think some of these are excuses. You can do almost everything listed with a spouse. If you know you've found you're soulmate and you're mature enough to handle a serious relationship then go for it! If you're unsure of yourself then duh don't get married..anyone at any age.
  • Lesley

    2013-04-10T14:51:25.000Z

    I'm 25 and I've been in a relationship for 5 years. We're fine not being married right now, the time will come when it's appropriate
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